Age definitely adds wisdom no doubt about it.
But it's ONLY upto us whether we take it or reject it.
Between I am only 30 years old (Young handsome guy).
Wanted to mention it upfront before you guys start imagining me as a grand father.
Lately there are many things that have started to come to my realizations. Things I had never paid much attention in past. It's a feeling like God's unfolding truths of life in front of me and with each realization comes inner peace.
Books from many famous writers on human physiology like Dale Carnegie has really shown me how to sometime stop for a while, take a deep breath and feel who am I.
Even staying alone has given me a chance to look deep within me and work on gaining friendship with my inner self.
Few are main things I have experienced and realized.
[1] Ego is very important to everyone. NEVER EVER hurt anyone's ego. Most clashes are ego related. Ego needs no logic or rational thinking.
[2] Everybody is look out to get sense of importance. This craving is very important in every human being. You CANNOT deny it and still be in harmony with someone.Even if it is a low level clerk or a job interviewer. People will be very happy to do things for you if it makes them feel important.
Example: Telling address direction may be an opportunity for someone to show that he is important.
[3] Arguments are futile. No one wins any argument even if you are correct.
You can only offend other person if you prove yourself to be right.
NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNLESS THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE.
[4] Everyone has EXPECTATION. It is the basis of any relationship.You can say you don't but still you have expectation from everyone you interact in your daily life. These expectations are at the root cause of our sorrows. It becomes dangerous if it is combined with ENTITLEMENT attitude since in this case you become blind to other person's efforts which will surely de-motivate him / her. There is no entitlement in this world. Be thankful to anyone who does anything for you as he / she had a choice. Low expectation will mean more happiness and pleasant surprises.
Example: Husband expects his wife to support and believe in him. Wife expects her husband to hug and kiss her.
[5] You feel HAPPY only when you are working on some goal. If you don't have any goals you cannot be happy. Goals can also be things you looking forward to or are waiting for. Men in general will have more materialistic goals while women in general will have more romantic goals.
Example: It could be as simple as planning to cook a special recipe when your spouse returns home after a long trip.
[6] It's lot easier to get a task done then to think over it.
If a task can be done today don't delay it. This will keep your mind FREE for other things.
Example: You don't need to wait till last day to take printout of flight tickets. Take it early and feel RELAXED.
[7] Taking ownership of EVERYTHING that happens to you brings in STRENGTH and PEACE. It puts you in CONTROL of your life.
[8] Searching for your dream and pursuing it will bring HAPPINESS and EXCITEMENT in life.Few are people who know what they want. Even fewer people really know what makes them happy.In this era people move in crowd like machines not even realizing their uniqueness.
I myself have been trapped in this matrix - where I started liking things which the people whom I liked, liked it. However if you do follow your dreams that will be the TOUGHEST thing you will do in your life. Be prepared to face LOT of resistance and possible ridicule if you take this path.
[9] Staying away from your child is most tormenting of all. It is painful.
[10] Anger is natural. However how you handle it is your choice.
Actions taken in anger will be source of regret in future.
[11] Watch your words. Words once out of mouth cannot be taken back. I have been guilty of it a lot in past and have learned it hard way. On the other hand silence is a powerful weapon. It is way too strong to anything you can say.
[12] Very few people have FORGIVING power. Great are people who are able to forgive others. I know very few people who have this power. I am still to master it.
[13] SEX DESIRE is natural and most strong urge / energy in this universe. It can make a person go down to any level. It's a very POWERFUL energy. It has to be used wisely. All rich and successful people have strong Sex power but they have learned how to divert sex energy into useful work.
Example: Many people won't have been that rich or successful if they didn't wanted to impress their wives.
[14] Every time you think about a BAD incident in PAST, you actually RE-LIVE it again. DON'T keep write-ups (Dairy or somewhere) or memories of bad things that happened to you. Looking at them will make you go through EXACTLY SAME sorrow again and again and with SAME intensity. Note the word exactly.
[15] Learn to Laugh at your mistakes even if you made a big fool of yourself. If you don't learn to laugh at them then those mistakes will haunt you and knock you down over and over again.
Send me your experiences on any of above area or if you disagree.
I will go to bed now.
Good night.
